MILK AND HONEY BY RUPI KAUR
Published – November 4th 2014
About the book (Goodreads)
milk and honey is a collection of poetry and prose about survival. It is about the experience of violence, abuse, love, loss, and femininity. It is split into four chapters, and each chapter serves a different purpose, deals with a different pain, heals a different heartache. milk and honey takes readers through a journey of the most bitter moments in life and finds sweetness in them because there is sweetness everywhere if you are just willing to look.
I just finished reading this book today, and honestly I’ve never disliked a book so much in my life or felt so strongly about. I would have never finished this book if it was not a short read. I’ve read many reviews online who disliked this book, some of them had issues with the quality of the writing. But my issues were completely different. I do not read too much of poetry and I am still discovering the magic of writing and working my way through reading diverse literature.
I watch a lot of booktube and I was introduced to this book there, and I decided to pick up this book because I honestly felt that I would enjoy this book too. The book is divided into 4 parts – the hurting, the loving, the breaking and the healing. I hoped that I would be able to connect to at least one of the parts. If I read this book when I was 17 and heart broken may be I would have enjoyed it? I am not sure.
I have a problem with the fact that it is categorized under “Feminism” on Goodreads. For the love of God, this is not feminism for me. I would not want my future daughter to read this thinking that being heart broken and then being vocal about it is feminism.
This book fails to address the strength a woman carries, the book mentions the abuse suffered because of the father but it completely lacks when it comes to highlighting her mothers strength. I understand you’ve been violated and I am sure they are many more people like you, it is good to talk about it and it could be the first step. But there is so much more to a woman. A man could have been abused too and could have had a similar experience, why add a tag to it?
I agree with many of the reviews online which say that this is a part of her journal. Look the poems below. I fail to understand how you can be all about being supportive to other woman and then describe your feelings based out of pure jealousy? Now, I am not saying being jealous is wrong, I am jealous of other woman too and it is completely up to you. But I wouldn’t then go and call this a book about feminism, because “woman are so much more than that”. This is a common theme and however open and direct the poems in this book are they highlight the wrong things. If you’d categorize this book under “Love” or “Romance”, I would have given it a higher rating because it is >90% talks about it.
i want to apologize to all the woman
i have called pretty
before i’ve called them intelligent or brave
i am sorry i made it sound as though
something as simple as what you’re born with
is the most you have to be proud of when your
spirit has crushed mountains
from now on i will say things like
you are resilient or you are extraordinary
not because i don’t think you are pretty
but because you are so much more than that
even when you undress her
you are searching for me
i am sorry i
taste so good
when the two of you
make love it is
still my name
that rolls off your
Now, I did strongly like some of the poems (<5) and I can will probably read and re-read them over and over again, but I will strongly pass the rest of the book and if you are a teen then please do your self a favor and do not pick this book up. I would highly recommend everyone reading this book to read it with a grain of salt. Even though you relate to a lot of stuff it does not mean you like it or encourage others to read it.
The best poem of the book which I will re-quote,
you tell me to quiet down cause
my opinions make me less beautiful
but i was not made with a fire in my belly
so i could be put out
i was not made with a lightness on my toungue
so i could be easy to swallow
i was made heavy
half blade and half silk
difficult to forget and not easy
for the mind to follow
Rating – ♥♥ / 5
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